Life can Throw you Curveballs

life curveballs

One thing’s sure about living. Life can throw you curveballs. And, life curveballs mean doing something and doing it now. Here’s my story…

Being positive

On the journey of life, you never know what will come next. Yes, life will throw you those unexpected curveballs. There are no options for running or ducking. When you know a curveball is going your way, you have to take action. Because of a big curveball, I’ll be taking a break from Ally’s Kitchen for a few weeks. I am going to do wonders with yoga now. The process of reversing aging the yoga way is going to do wonders and will also keep you connected with me.

Positive perspective

I figured it was important for you to be aware of what’s going on in my life. So, presumably, you’ll take the time to read this very detailed explanation of what’s going on. In addition, I’m hoping that my interactions will benefit someone else, such as you, a friend, or a family member. We recognize that we are all in this life together, and nothing is more powerful than learning from one another. Always remember the words of wisdom for women: your shoulders, never let them bent but keep them upright to help your partner take the support to you being there.

Keeping positive

After debating whether or not to announce this upcoming major event in my life, I concluded that you’d most likely note my absence! And, very honestly, I believe it is critical to inform you of what is coming up because, as I previously said, it could be of assistance to someone else. I’ll be going under the knife for complete reverse shoulder replacement surgery in a couple days. Hey, trust me when I say I didn’t make this decision lightly.

How to be more positive

After struggling with this ‘issue’ for about seven years and seeing little improvement, I thought it was time to visit shoulder surgery rehab, well, time to MAKE TIME, to see an orthopedist. You’re probably thinking I might have done it earlier. And, as they say, hindsight is still 20/20. Yes, I should’ve done so. However, there was no major chronic pain. Nothing is getting in the way of my ‘wonder woman’ speed of life. There was nothing even interfering with or disturbing my night. I still had enough stamina to sprint and jump hard. In other words, this swollen shoulder was just a blip on my radar and a minor annoyance. Besides, I’d grown up with a strong mother who instilled in me the need to be strong and persevere.

How to stay positive in a negative situation

The doctor detected adhesive capsulitis or frozen shoulder based on my MRI, Xrays, and diagnosis. I felt relieved, saying to myself, “Hey, this can be fixed and rehabbed, and I’ll be ready to go in maybe 6-9 months.” and this was my reverse shoulder surgery: my progress after a few days.

Seeing the positive in every situation

The thought of seeing my bones sawed and being in intensive surgery was my worst nightmare. I mean, I’ve never had a broken bone in my life, so the idea of doing surgery gives me the creeps! I was determined to stop it at all times. Sharing this with some friends and relatives, I discovered that others had the same issue, and I assumed discovering yoga that I would be cured in no time. I was content as long as I could continue to practice my favorite yoga!

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  1. Harry McCay says:

    Alley I am suppose to have this reverse shoulder replacement surgery on Dec 20th. I was delayed about a month ago because I got COVID! I won’t be at my job for awhile because my boss said there is no light duty. Thanks for the inspiring video!♥️

    1. Hi, Harry…You’re gonna do great! Just b/t now and DEC 20, eat well, relax and get yourself mentally ready. And, the most important thing, the PT. I still do my exercises and it’s been about 2 years. I’m really excited for you. Will be sending up prayers for your great recovery, my friend! xoxx ~ally

  2. I had the exact surgery 8-months ago. My shoulder was crushed in a bad fall. When you get it done, I’ll tell you more, if you need some info on what to expect. Good luck!

    1. Noreen! Thank you for sharing that. I sure hope that you’re feeling so much better. Your accident sounds very very sad. Right now I’m in a lot of pain, but I consider it healing pain. Thank you for leaving your comment and sweet wishes. Sending love and hugs. ~ ally

  3. Love you, Alice.
    Thank you for sharing your story. Know that my prayers will be many for you!
    Looking forward to your inevitable dynamic come back. ❤️??❤️?????❤️

    1. My dearest Patsy. Thank you for stopping by and leaving your sweet wishes. Right now in a lot of pain, but it’s what I consider healing pain. I know that in a few months I’m going to be a lot better. Medical science is the nominal. O so glad we live in this period O Tom. Sending much love. ~ ally

    2. My dear Patsy…Your prayers are powerful, thank you. It’s now day 4 and I’m seeing small but stead improvements. A lot road to go, but I’m ready to fight the fight. xoxo Love you ally

  4. SCOTT EGAN says:

    Darlin’, hope you’re out of recovery by now, and that the next few days will be a standable pain experience, before you start recovery. Love you and praying for you and yours.

    1. Dearest Scott…yes, in my recovery phase…it’s now day four, and I can see some wonderful improvements. Please keep sending that love and those prayers, my friend xoxo ally

  5. Marlene Hermes says:

    Dear Ally, Want you to know you will be in my prayers. I am so happy you researched and found
    a great surgeon and with the Lord guiding his hands, I am sure, you will come thru this 100%.

    1. Dearest Aunt Marlene, Thank you so very much. Your prayers are very much needed. Tomorrow’s my day and it will be the first of a ‘painful’ healing, but healing and recovery. Ben and I have been super busy today w/loose ends. You’d think we were having triplets!! lol! Love you! xoxo ~ally

  6. Sophia Messervy says:

    Mama Ally!! Heal fast! You know the Messervy’s are always in your corner, and my mom is pretty good at ponytails hahah.
    Love you!!

    1. Sophia!!! OMG, thank you, sweetness! Ha ha…yeah, you know the Messervy’s are our fam, so my boo (your mama) will be doing my ponytails! Love you! xoxo

  7. Take care of yourself, and please … please … please don’t try to heal that shoulder too quickly. Can’t wait to read the story in a year about the Six Million Dollar Woman. 😉 Godspeed, friend.

    1. Dearest Adam…yeah, man, I’m sitting here thinking (as DDay is in about 20 hours) how I want to chronicle this ‘adventure’ as it’s my hope that my experiences will help others. I even looked at my bum shoulder in the mirror last night after my shower, I patted it and thanked it for being a really good friend and workhorse for 70 years. It will be missed, but the wheels of progress keep rollin’! xxo ~ally

  8. Dionne Baldwin says:

    Wishing you fast healing. <3 I’ll be praying.

    1. Dionne!! Thank you, sweet girl. Those prayers are super powerful. Hopefully, as a young woman, you picked up some ideas for not battering your shoulder joints over the next 30 years! xoxo ~ally

  9. Miss Ally, hold your horses (or ponies :), it’s time to take care of YOU. Thank you for your extensive research — you never know who might benefit from your wise advice — and for explaining why you’re taking a break. You’ll be missed, but “do what’cha need to do.” You’ll be back twice as strong in no time with a shoulder that can keep up with you! Hugs and prayers, xo.

    1. Kimmeeee! Ha ha…you always make me smile! I’m hoping that someone does benefit from my journeys down this road, especially young women who are invincible in their 30s, 40s and 50s, but wear and tear of time in your 50s and 60s can mean these detours. Of course, by then, say the next 20 years for this kind of surgery research, I can’t even imagine the possibilities! Keep those prayers going to the Big Man up there. He’s listening. I’m looking forward to having more energy! xoxo Love you littl’ girl ~ally

  10. Ally,
    I will miss you in yoga. I will be available to walk the neighborhood, make a ponytail or anything else in your Arrowhead recovery. I will see Ben at 7:30 am yoga so I will stay in touch.?❤️?

    1. Kathy!!! You sweetheart! My ponytail is so me! Bless Ben’s heart, he tried! Yes, Ben will be there for yoga, I hope. And, walking the neighborhood w/a buddy who can trailblaze any potential hazards is important. Plus, what fun just gabbing and talking. Thank you, my sweet friend xoxo ~ally

  11. Susan Bickta says:

    ALLY!!!!! Oh my goodness!! This sounds so painful (and frustrating…..) ……….and I know what you mean about “sawing into your bones” as I had brain surgery 9 years ago ….. my thoughts at the time were “So, doc!! How are you going to get to my brain without sawing through my skull???” I know!!! DUH!! Right??? So, please know I will be thinking of you and saying prayers for your quick and complete recovery. ANd, we will all miss you, but you must take care of yourself!! Love ‘ya lady!!!

    1. Oh, dear, Susan!! Your sawing was much more scary than my upcoming surgery. God bless you! Thank you for all love and prayers. Love you, too, sweet girl! xoxo ~ally

  12. Love ya girlie! I’ll definitely be praying for you and looking forward to your full and complete recovery!
    –L.B. Scantlin aka Faith Warmheart

    1. Faith Faith!!!! God bless you and L.B.!! Thank you for this heartfelt comment and the love and prayers. You have no idea how much that means to me. Thank you! xoxo ~ally

  13. Lori McLain says:

    I will be praying BIG ol prayers for you Ally….and I KNOW God keeps you in His mighty hands and this will be more of the same! Merry Angel will no doubt keep you in healing mode and please know we all love you so very much and know this will be a GOOD thing❤️?Love you mucho GCM gal ??

    1. My dear Lori! Listen, you’re right, our Merry Angel is bringing the power of His healing and more! I’m sooooooooooo lucky! And, thank you, my GCM girlie, I know your prayers are powerful. Tuesday’s my DDay…I’ll be ol’ one-handed Ally Cat for a while! xoxo Love you amazing friend

  14. You continue to inspire all your tribe. Difficult decision to make but you are in good physical condition, have faith in your well chosen surgeon, and an amazing support team. If not now, when? Right? Stay positive and know the kindest and sweetest vibes are coming your way over your convalescence! All the best my friend, will miss you but in the interim I plan to revisit some of those yummy recipes and inspiring posts from the past to honour you!
    Be well!

    1. Oh, sweet Momcat! You make my Saturday before surgery sparkle! Thank you for those supportive, love, warm words. They really really mean a lot to me. I’m getting a lot of fresh air and sunshine (even if it’s cold here in the Rockies!) for the next three days. Nothing better for the mind, heart and soul. Sending loving #allycat vibes to you! xoxo ~ally

  15. prayers for you and your surgeon <3..and cheers to good friends who drop everything to care for you.

    1. Isn’t that the truth, Lisa! Thank you and Merry is beyond amazing…she’s a world class gem. Doing this w/everything happening in the world at this time has blown me away. She knows if there are annnneee reservations whatsoever for her, all is good. But, you know our Merry! Love you! xox ~ally

  16. Mike Ginther says:

    Hi Ally,
    Claire and I are sending prayers, love and good healing energy. Hey, being bionic is a good thing and now you will be able to pitch that 100 mph fast ball before the season ends haha. Good luck, and a speedy recovery.

    1. Mike Mike! You doll! Thanks for coming, reading and leaving me this inspirational message. Hey, I say, move over Tom Brady, Mama Ally’s gonna be doing ‘pot throwing’!! Your prayers and sweet wishes are so appreciated…love y’all! xo ~ally

  17. JoAnn Belack says:

    So very sorry you are facing this challenge but your strength, grace, optimism, friends and family will pull you through!! You have been an inspiration with your joie de vivre and I know we have all enjoyed seeing all your travels and many accomplishments. I still use and read your beautiful cookbook like a novel !! My prayers are with you on this journey. God Bless…

    1. My dear dear JoAnn…your words are just so very uplifting. Thank you, my friend. It’s the collective energy that I feel here from all the wonderful comments that just brings strength and fortitude to my attitude. We all lift each other, you have done that for me for years. Bionic granny coming soon! Love love xoxo ~ally

  18. Ally you are amazing to have endured more than 10 years with this ailment. God Bless you on this journey of healing I can just imagine how you were feeling, I too am exactly the same and forge on as your mother taught you and I. The pain has to be unbearable for you to have made this decision and I pray for a recovery that will be mild and successful. May the lord wrap his arms around you and give you peace and serenity as you heal. Love you

    1. Dearest Claudia…I got chills reading your message…yes, our mamas were the same, we were taught not to whine, complain and just plow through whatever life put in our path. God is speaking to me through each and every one of these beautiful comments. I’m truly the most blessed, luckiest person out there. Just send up some smoke signals the morning of March 10th. Bionic Mama Ally will be created! Love you, too, angel xoxo ~ally

    1. Booboo! I know that…you always have been and always will be…for now, I’m hibernating and avoiding people. Nasty germs out there! xoxo

  19. Love you my friend. My prayers go with you.
    You will be missed. I have come to treasure every post from you.
    Take all the time you need to heal..
    Love Sarah

    1. My dear Sarah…gosh, I love you, too, my sweet girl, and thank you for taking time to read this and send your healing energies and prayers. Hey, I’ll be back w/a bionic shoulder and may rival Tom Brady’s football throwing! LOL! At least I’ll be able to pick up heavy pots! xox ~ally

    1. Merry Merry girl…you know I tossed and turned and prayed about whether to or not, but I feel like others can learn from it. Love you, my dear amazing friend, and see you soon! xoxo ~ally

  20. Dearest Ally,
    You will be in my prayers for a quick recovery!
    Please let me know what I can do for you in a practical way as well
    After all, we are neighbors…ok, an hour away in traffics, but
    StillGrand Strand folk!

    1. Dearest Joan! You’re a sweetheart. And, when I return to SC, I may just holler at you. Your prayers are the most important at this juncture. W/all the creepy germs, flus and viruses out there, my quest is to lay low until Tuesday and be healthy going into this major surgery. Big love coming right backatcha! You are a gem. xoxo ~ally

  21. My dear one! My heart and the lovie’s dear hearts are with you. Your surgery is on my baby sister’s birthday so I know that is a wink from the universe it will be perfect. I wish I was closer to be there for you in real time but I am holding extra space in my heart for you. You are pure love magic and will heal in no time. Try and be a good patient so you can come back to us better than ever! Love you! Xoxo

    1. Oh, my sweet dear lovies! Yes, a God wink being on your baby sister’s birthday, a very happy celebratory day! Space in your heart and soul is all I need at this point. You keep sending the juju and Mama Ally will rebound in a flash being stronger and better than ever. Hey, I’ll be bionic and rival Tom Brady’s shoulder…Olympic pot lifting! ha ha! Love you girl xoxo ~ally

  22. Will be praying for you and a quick recovery. I had a full tear of my right bicep tendon. It popped while I was playing tennis. When I swung my racquet for an overhead I fell a pinch, heard a pop and I looked at my arm and I looked like Popeye. My bicep had coiled up and rolled down to just above my elbow. I had the tendon re-attached. After my surgery I had 6 months of re-hab and after that my arm strength was better than every. Your situation is much worse and more involved, but you sound like you’re in excellent hands and have a great support system at home. Good luck and God Bless.

    1. Suz! Thank you for sharing your own personal experience with me! Oh, lawsy, I know that pop and the pain. Yours sounds much worse than mine was. And, it’s so good to hear that your arm is stronger than ever. Ben talked just a day ago to a 70 y/o gentleman on the chairlift (skiing). He has Parkinsons. Had this same surgery 12 months ago w/the same doc I’m using. He told Ben he was stronger than ever. Isn’t it amazing how God puts people in our paths, like you, to help us. Thank you, again xoxo ~ally

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