There’s nothing quite so exciting as a new baby coming to the world. And when the little bundle of joy arrives at your home, it’s natural to want to help wherever you can.
But good intentions don’t always translate to helpful action. And as much as we want to help the new moms in our lives, what we think will be helpful may cause more physical and mental work for them. Here are things you can do for new moms that are actually helpful.
We all need to eat. But when you’re taking care of an infant, even ordering a pizza can be too taxing, let alone making a wholesome, nutritious meal. Bringing over a home-cooked meal—or even takeout from their favorite restaurant—is something new moms will appreciate.
But we aren’t always able to bring over a meal every day. To ensure mom has dinner covered for a few weeks, you can set up a meal train online. You can put in information like the family’s favorite dishes, dietary concerns, and even preferred meal delivery times to make sure the family has what they need.
Help With Chores
Any mom will tell you that having a clean house isn’t always possible, especially when you have a new baby. Sometimes, you simply don’t have the energy to clean, especially if you’re recovering from a C-section. But that doesn’t mean anyone wants to live in filth.
One of the most helpful things you can do for new moms is come over and knock out a task or two from their to-do list. For example:
- Doing the dishes
- Washing a load of laundry
- Cleaning the bathroom
- Sweeping or vacuuming
- Mowing the lawn
- Shoveling the driveway
Pro Tip: Don’t Ask—Do
Your first instinct may be to walk in and ask what needs to be done. But delegating tasks can create more work for the new mom. Instead, look for things to be done and just do them. See if the baby’s bedding needs to be changed and change it. Check if there are dishes in the sink and load the dishwasher. Trust us, mom will appreciate it.
Don’t Stay Too Long
Doing things for a new mom or even just coming and chatting with them is helpful. But it’s important to keep in mind that being a new mom is exhausting, and your friend or relative will likely have a shorter wick than they usually do.
In other words, as much as they may love having you around, they’ll need a little more time to themselves, too. Unless you’re doing a really intensive job for them, try to keep your visits short.
We all want to help the new moms in our lives. But being helpful means being thoughtful about the help we provide. When we have that mindset, we can truly help our mom friends care for the little bundles of joy in their lives.